Ginny Simon

By: Virginia Schulman Simon, Massachusetts Collaborative Law Council, 11 Clark Road, Ipswich, MA 01938, (508) 641-0417, [email protected]

When it is financially feasible many adults assume that it is best to keep the home that the children are currently residing in when the get divorced. They reason that the familiar surroundings provides the children a sense of stability and security. They would most likely go to the same schools and enjoy the same activities. This is a very good argument however if this is not feasible it is possible to consider some other points.

Except in very affluent situations it is likely that divorcing parents will struggle to maintain two residences. If keeping the house would mean that either parent becomes “house poor” it ties up money that might be used in a better way for the children. It might also suggest to the children that one parent “won” the divorce battle and that the other is left with less desirable living arrangements. Additionally, if suitable housing cannot be found near to the family home the distance might make co-parenting more complicated.

Each divorce is different and there is no set standard on how to proceed regarding housing. It is important to consider your own personal circumstances and make the decision that is best for all the members of your family. In the Collaborative Process you can be sure that your coach facilitator, attorneys, and financial neutral will help you make this important decision.